I am lucky that I look forward to the holidays at this stage in my life. I did not always feel this way. The pressure of so many celebrations, gift buying, and preparing, not to mention interpersonal challenges, had me feeling frantic, overwhelmed, and dreading it at times. But I learned how to take care of myself better, set limits, and focus on what matters to me. Now holidays bring joy, time to connect, both with loved ones and myself. Here are some tips I suggest. Pick on

Unfortunately, our brain has a negativity bias, and the practice of gratitude can be a good antidote. To make a difference in our mood, gratitude needs to be felt realistically; we can not force ourselves to feel it, such as when someone tells us, “Oh, it could be worse”. Forced gratitude does not benefit us. True gratitude should be felt in our bodies, such as when we lie down in our bed and feel the comfort and warmth. This practice of recognizing the feeling of gratitude c

Well, excuse me for being blunt, not only is the government shutdown becoming an excuse not to feed people, but apparently, more big corporations are also deciding to lay off massive amounts of employees. Even before this, job seekers were reporting difficulty even securing interviews, let alone employment at all. So, if you are in this camp, I am so sorry. It’s not your fault. You may have never had to ask for help before, and I see you and hope you will see your worthiness,

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