Back to School

Back to school changes can bring a lot of stress as you scramble to enjoy the last of summer and anticipate change in routines. Not to mention the rush of shopping! Then factor in mental helath challenges for yourself and your child, it can be alot! So go easy on yourself but begin to prepare early.

Here are a few ways to support those navigating anxiety, depression, learning disabilities, social transitions, or past trauma.

1. Start Routines Early

Begin easing into school-year routines (bedtimes, wake-up times, meals) about two weeks before school starts. Predictability helps kids feel safe and grounded. You may need to transition bedtime gradually, such as 10-20 minutes earlier if the bedtime has been drastically adjusted over summer.

2. Normalize Back-to-School Anxiety

Talk openly about nervousness as something normal. Share your own childhood memories of first-day jitters and reassure them that it's okay to feel both excited and uneasy. Especially for the kids transitioning to a new school. We ALL feel some kind of anxiety of the first day of work, school, college, etc. Normalize how overwhelming it can be to learn new information and new routines. We are not meant to be free of all anxiety.

3. Practice Separation (Especially for Younger Children)

Try short periods apart if your child struggles with separation. Practice saying goodbye with confidence and warmth. Even if you are nervous, try to stay calm as you say your goodbyes. Our children look to us for guidance when nervous, practice deep breathing with them.

4. Keep checking in with them!

Once school starts, continue checking in emotionally, not just academically. Ask open-ended questions like “What made you smile today?” or “Was anything hard?” “what was your favorite moment, least favorite?” Even teens want these questions even if they do not say much in response.

5. Watch for Signs

Be mindful of behavioral shifts like withdrawal, sleep changes, irritability, or stomachaches. These can be signs your child is feeling overwhelmed. Try to affirm your child’s experience and try not to change their perspective, such as “the treacher doesn’t like me”. Try to ask open ended questions such as “tell me why you feel that way” and assure them you are there to support them to find a solution.