If only we were taught how complicated romantic relationships are as we grew up. Most of us see movies and television as examples of real life, trust me it is rarely like it is portrayed. Then our families may also have not been great examples of working through conflict.
Maybe if we really knew, we would never commit to them, but that would be a very lonely life without our partnerships.
Nonetheless, our closest relationships are always going to show us where our vulnerabilities are.
If you are struggling to communicate, or cope with conflict, you are not alone. Our attachment patterns influence how we relate to one another and it’s important to understand your patterns in addition to your partners’. In addition to the support of a couple’s therapist here are some additional resources to get you started.
The Gottman’s have researched couple’s dynamics and what make successful relationships
Attachment quiz:
Books on attachment:
Trauma healing/Queer relationships
Wired for Love/Wired for Dating
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